I’ve always had a love for children and managing them and nurturing them was always just part of who I was. As a teacher I learned early on that respect is earned both ways and developing a relationship was more beneficial than “winning.” I didn’t feel it was much different when we began navigating parenthood (minus the diapers and drool) – if one thing doesn’t work, we try another. Mitch and I are both fairly easygoing (him more so than me), so we continue to navigate parenting together day by day and roll with the punches.
Although I don’t “overthink” parenting too much, my biggest breakthroughs struggle as a mom came years later when I was sick and tired of being with myself. I was a miserable wife, screaming Mama, and I was exhausted by the “I’m just fine” façade. My family didn’t know what to expect from me because I was quite literally jekyl and hyde. I removed myself from them. I thought it was for their own good.
By none of my own doing, I was introduced to the opportunity of a confidence mentor. I had the opportunity to work for her, but I knew from our first meeting that it was something I NEEDED for me. Looking back it was divine intervention. During my work with Michele I began undoing the “old tapes” that played. I learned to recognize my nasty inner critic and put her where she belonged. Her and self-doubt were powerful and wreaked havoc on me for many years and kept me in a darkness of fear, judgement, and misery.
I’ve rediscovered myself (down to the core). I remembered my value and learned my worth as an individual AND as a Mom and Wife. Working on my confidence meant I made time for myself, Mitch and I intentionally worked on our marriage and made time to connect with each other, I dealt with health issues that were making me exhausted and bitchy, and because I felt better I became a better Mom. EVERYTHING felt better because I saw the value in myself and that lit a spark in my family.
My confidence journey is something I work on every day, but me and my family are people that I’m happy to be committed to do that for. Experiencing the shift of confidence for myself is why I’m so passionate about giving kids the tools to help them maintain their confidence throughout life. And I’m also passionate about supporting moms to be the amazing, confident mom they always dreamed they would be.
This is Us
Axton is adventurous and sensitive. It’s taken him awhile to be able to explain his feelings or tell us what’s upsetting him without, first, a flood of emotions. This has tested our patience more times than I care to admit, but we continue to find ways to minimize his frustration.
Ember is feisty and prides herself on being unique. She’ll hunt or help her dad fix his truck in a dress, clickin’ shoes and camo. She’s more apt to hold things in, so we’ve had to make extra effort to connect with her solo, so she feels heard and understood.
Mitch has always been my literal rock. He’s provided roots when all I wanted was wings. He’s provided reason when I was completely unreasonable. He’s had his own confidence struggles and together we’ve learned ways to support and encourage each other through the struggles rather than cope with them.
So glad you’re here, Mama.
I’ve decided to claim the title of Former Olympic Medalist in the Mommy-ing Sport of Overwhelm. To both make light of a dark topic and to hint at the level of overwhelm I accomplished. When I do something, I like to go all in. Overwhelm? ALL IN. I’ve never lasted long in a game of poker.
Before I joined the mommy world, I was a teacher. I taught grades 6 and 8 (because I’m brave and perhaps crazy) and I created programs helping regular kids develop their sense of self, believe in their worth, and shift their perspectives. I had a degree in understanding, guiding and teaching kids and I was good at it. I wasn’t so good at arriving to work on time, hey no one is perfect! But, I was good at my job, I was good at kids. I was patient, loving, calm, creative, excited, a bit bonkers and chaotic, and happy. I couldn’t wait to be a mom!
When I left teaching and started growing our little people at home, wow, things got out of control quickly. Suddenly, I was faced with being very not good at my job. I was struggling, drowning, overwhelmed, lonely, exhausted, suffocating… My new job was so important, and I was failing at it! As a mom, I was a yelling, frustrated, angry survivalist, doing a terrible job of surviving, beating myself up and so very, very sad.
But now? Now I am living my life. I’m enjoying my days! The difference is staggering. I found a way to pull myself out of the muck and mire. It began with organizing; I didn’t have a plan, I just noticed that it felt good, and I needed to feel good. I started reading about organizing, minimalism, simplifying and decluttering. And, while the different methods helped, there was something else. Sorting through the physical “stuff” was only a doorway.
On the other side of that doorway is where the real change took root and flourished. I have re-built my life with essentials and love. I have filled the spaces with happiness and family. And, let me tell you, after far too many years, it is AMAZING! I’ve replaced Overwhelm with the time and energy to sit with my kids and really join them. I’ve befriended that nasty inner critic and got her on my side. Most importantly, I came back to my family as I am meant to be.
And now I want to help you, I want to help everyone!
Hi, I’m Dani.
I’m a mom to three amazing little humans. A 7-year-old wonderful and quirky old soul, named Hayes. A 4-year-old who loves to cuddle in tight, full of love and then literally punch you because those emotions are big, named Asher. And, a 2-year old ball of ridiculous spunk, bravery, and silliness with an uncanny ability to tell jokes before he can even talk, named Sawyer.
I’m a wife to a superhero husband, Travis. He’s my oak tree, no matter how hard I (accidently) try, I can’t break him. He just bends and sways. I can knock some leaves loose, but inevitably, he just grows new ones.
And, I’m a teacher, strongly influenced by my love for my grandma Betty, who was also a teacher.
And I like helping people. Which is why I’m here. Welcome.